New Year's Resolutions for Singles

By now, you've probably started to think of some New Year's Resolutions. Exercise more? Purchase one less latte a week from your favorite cafe?

Well, if you're like most single people, one of those probably has something to do with a new boyfriend or girlfriend.

The talented first date experts at It's Just Lunch Toronto can give you a hand with that last one. But we also have some other suggestions for you to help make 2016 your best year of dating yet!

Here are our Top 3 New Year's Resolutions for Singles:

1) Be open to meeting new people. Smile more. Talk to strangers. Take a leap of faith. It won't hurt, we promise.

2) Be positive about dating and each of your dates.  Dating can sometimes feel like work. Difficult, difficult, lemony difficult work. And sometimes, when we're not in a great headspace about it, we forget to give our dates the benefit of the doubt. Maybe s/he doesn't look exactly like our dream man/woman.  Maybe s/he said something early in the date that was off-putting. Being more positive about dating and each of your dates will earn you more better dates in the long run, guaranteed.

3) Be good to you. Take that class you've always wanted to take, or that dream vacation. Join the club or the gym...  Whatever it is that you've been thinking of/dreaming of that will bring you joy and happiness. You deserve to be happy and self-fulfilled.

Happy New Year!

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Holiday Wishes from It's Just Lunch Toronto Matchmakers

Happy holidays!

I can't help but smile while I look back upon the past year as a matchmaker at It's Just Lunch Vancouver. I'm fortunate to have a career where I can help singles find their heart match. I enjoy helping people find happiness to last their lifetime.

For that, I want to say THANK YOU. I appreciate your my readers, clients and friends. I have learned so much from your support and comments -- which in turn helps other clients. It is a lovely friendship circle that I am grateful for having.

This time of year is always filled with endless to do lists, shopping, holiday parties and traveling. In the midst of the holiday hustle and bustle, I want to take a moment to remind you to enjoy the true magic of the season: time with loved ones.

It is the precious moments that we share with us that the true magic of the season is revealed. Stories are shared. Feelings explored. Our lives become intertwined and friendship strengthened.

This time is also a great time for you to reflect on what it is you may want to see come to fruition in 2016. What are your relationship goals? Take the time to ponder and be as specific as you can. This is just step one towards making 2016 your best dating year yet.

I wish you and your family a wonderful Christmas and a very happy New Year.

-- Jacquie Brownridge, It's Just Lunch Vancouver matchmaker and CEO

Let the matchmakers at It's Just Lunch help you find your match! Get started today by calling us at 1-416-703-3900 or click here to tell us a little something about yourself

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Surviving the Holidating Season

It's the season of love, generosity, joy to the world, peace on earth . . . and, of courses, the added pressures of shopping for loved ones, holiday parties and Christmas plans with the family.  Not to mention, there's that special someone you have recently met and want to get to know a bit better.

The holiday season can easily push two people towards coupledom too soon or it can let a new spark fizzle out due to other commitments.

So, what is the right holiday protocol? After three months of dating, should you invite someone home to Alberta where your mother will inevitably express her desire for grandchildren while passing the cranberries?

Or will your date get the wrong idea and assume things are getting serious? On the other hand, if they are not invited, they might be offended and think you don't care. What do you do?

In our experience, the top three issues that cause issues during the holidays for couples -- no matter how long you have been dating -- is gift giving, family dinners and party etiquette.

Our advice for how you handle it comes down to two things: how long you have been dating and how you see the current situation.

FIRST THREE MONTHS
Spend Christmas with your family and call him or her from home. It's too early to expect that you will spend the family-oriented holiday together.

THREE TO SIX MONTHS
Bring them to a friend's house or holiday mixer, but it may be a bit early for meeting the parents if they live out of providence.  However, if you all live in the same region, it is probably okay to invite them over Christmas dinner. Feel it out.

SIX MONTHS PLUS
If your family hasn't met your new honey, now is the time. It can be a bit nerve wracking and you might not have much of an appetite -- so be prepared. If you are invited to a family event, be on your best behavior, dress appropriately and volunteer to do the dishes.

Will there be issues? Sure. The mark of a strong couple isn't in the number of problems they face but in how they face those issues. A strong couple can work through the stressful periods and emerge closer than ever. Think of this as just a couple test that you will pass with flying colors.

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Winter Dating Survival Tips

How often do your plans get waylaid due to the bone-chilling temperatures or unexpected temper tantrums from Mother Nature?

December in Toronto can be cold, miserable and, quite frankly, isolating. Who wants to battle the harsh conditions outside when Netflix and hot cocoa sounds so much more inviting.

Tis a harsh season for those seeking social encounters. It's not easy to look like a 10 on the hotter-than-hot scale when you are wearing three layers of wool and a pair of long underwear.

Here are a few tips and ideas to help you muster up the courage to head out during the winter holiday season:

1) Everyone is Wearing Winter Clothes

A bundled up person can inspire tender feelings. While you may not be at your sexiness, you're probably rating pretty high on the cute meter. And everyone loves a person with confidence -- and that comes from feeling at ease in six layers of hoodie. So, gear up and head out to the local cafe, fireside table at the local pub or to the movies. Get your wooly self out and in the mix. 

2) Singles Potluck

Make your friends fight the blizzard conditions for a potluck dinner at your pad. Featuring warming items like homemade stew or the best dang chili ever is sure to bring a few smiles. If nothing else, it's a fantastic way to blow out a Sunday afternoon.

3) Cookie Baking Get Togethers
Speaking of blowing out an afternoon on food! Schedule a cookie baking get together with friends. Bake cookies and swap to make fun, edible gifts while being social!

4) Enjoy Winter Activities

It's cold but there are several things that are pretty darn fun to do in the lower temperatures like snowshoeing, ice skating or even watching a minor league hockey game at the community center. There's even scientific research that says our connection with others grow stronger with physical activity. 

5) Perfect Time to Test the Waters

From the first of the year to about Valentine's Day is the busiest time of the year for online dating sites as singles attempt to make good on their "find a mate" resolutions. Not to mention people have recaptured some of their personal time after the holiday flurry of parties, families and other expectations. In short, this is the perfect time for testing the waters of dating sites or matchmakers. 

6) Reconnect with Those Close to You

Okay, so you have elected to stay in, curled up on the couch. Fair enough. Use this time to call your best friend across the country or your sister on the coast. Nothing warms us faster than reconnecting with loved ones -- well, except for homemade hot chocolate.

Happy Holidays! 

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Bring on the Heat for the Second Date

Ok. We’ve all been there. Fighting off the first date jitters can be quite a job.

A call to the best friend for support, a bottle opener and designated driver, or even a quick chat with your therapist (the first available neighbor at the mailbox).

BUT WHAT ABOUT THE SECOND DATE?

Those first date jitters grew into real anticipation in the past few days and now, expectations of another great time are running high. This could be the "make or break" date for you, depending on how smoothly the evening goes.

And here comes the mental hamster wheel...
“What if tonight isn’t as good as last time!!???”
“Were they really that attractive or was it just really excellent lighting??!!”
“What if I LOVE tonight and they decide they don’t want to date anymore??!”

Ok. First off. Breathe. Second. You have a date to get ready for, so here’s a little insight. The first date ice is broken, and to keep things going,well you need to warm things up...literally!

At this stage, you want to spend time with the person of interest to see how you relate to one another and notice if there is any chemistry. Choose a place that is comfortable and suits both of your tastes.

Research has been done that proves that physical warmth impacts perception of a person’s physiological warmth. What? No really. Dr. Amy Muise*, a social psychologist, revealed a study that showed offering a hot cup of coffee as opposed to an iced-coffee to someone, positively influenced the opinion of the receiver of the beverage...the person who was offered something warm (soup, a beverage, whatever) rated the person who offered the warmth as more "friendly" and "trustworthy" as opposed to the participants who were offered something cold. All good opinions, especially for a second date.

So, the lesson? When it’s time to order...BRING ON THE HEAT! Maybe opt for teriyaki instead of sushi, coffee instead of iced tea, and you’ll have a better chance of securing that third date!

*http://www.scienceofrelationships.com/home/2011/8/9/how-to-warm-things-up-on-your-next-date.html

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Laws of Attraction: Learn to Tell Stories

Have you ever watched the guests on late night talk shows? Whether it is a political figure, a silver screen sweetheart pushing her latest movie or one of your favorite singers, each guest has a story to tell their audience and host.

 The stories are usually some odd event that happened on the way to the studio, their most recent shopping adventure or the awkward airplane moment. In their brief few minutes on the stage, the guest pulls in the studio audience and those watching from the comforts of their recliners by giving them a glimpse of their day and of their humour.

Short stories are the key to engaging your audience . . . and your first date.

Human beings have been bonding over stories since developing the means to communicate. It's how you present your world, what is going on and shows your vulnerable side.

 The key is to have a few good stories waiting or at least prepared for your first date. The ones that are positive, emotional or informative are the best ones. How did you get your job? Why did you move to this town after college? How did you get involved in your favorite hobby? What exciting thing happened today?

The organization and layering of the story is what helps to establish the bond between you and your date (audience). It's sharing a bit of you or your day that creates intimacy. Think about it. When you barely know someone and they ask about your day, you might say "fine" or "busy." But when it is a close friend who inquires about the status of your day, you reveal a bit more. You may be willing to go in-depth about the current project or latest interaction with your boss.

 Think of at least one good story about you that shows a bit of who you are before your next first date. It may be the most attractive thing you do.

Resources: 

• Four Ways to Use Words to Build Relationships (PsychologyToday.com)

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Kindness is Key on First Dates

Ideally, it would be fantastic if every relationship, partnership or office interaction left people better off in life. It would be great if every encounter boosted our spirits, increased our confidence and put a smile on our face.

The truth of it is, life rarely works the way we want it to and not all encounters serve to bring out the best in us. Dating can leave you feeling vulnerable and fragile. Our self esteem may take a hit or a personality clash leaves us wondering if we are in fact unlovable.

In a recent It's Just Lunch survey, the majority of respondents said kindness is the most important character trait in a partner. So, how do you inject a tidbit of kindness into your next date? Here are a few ideas:

Be on Time
Nobody wants to be left wondering if their date is going to show at a coffee shop or restaurant. One minute feels like an hour when your nerves are tight and your stomach in knots. If you are going to be even five minutes late, let them know as soon as possible.

Be a Great Listener
Not listening and talking too much often go hand in hand. Tit's really important to listen to the other person, and that doesn't mean just letting them get a word in edgewise. Your aim is to learn about your date. Ask questions and listen to their answers. Ask follow up questions to what they just said. By listening to your date, you are being attentive and that is hands down sexy.

Be Generous With Compliments
Like you, your date is a bundle of nerves. They prepared for this date from picking out the outfit, mentally going over conversation topics and even reading blogs regarding first date tips. A simple compliment can brighten their day and eliminate some of the nerves. Make it a habit to give a genuine compliment to your date.

Say Goodnight -- Gracefully
Don't tell the other person you are going to call or that you are looking forward to a second date if that is not your intention.  There is nothing worse than waiting around for someone to call. It's better to say nothing than to lead someone on. Be honest, but not brutally so.

In the end, it comes down to the Golden Rule. Treat others as you want to be treated. Remember that, and you are well on your way to a great date.

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Everyone Loves a Sense of Humour; But It's Tricky

One of the most popular personality traits people claim to be searching for is a sense of humour. My clients usually tell me that their dream guy or gal is someone who can make them laugh.

We are all attracted, in love and friendship, to the people who lift our moods, give a spring in our step and help shine the light on the brighter side of life. They make us feel good and it feels good to be with them.

Laughter has a way of bringing us together. It forges bonds among family and friends. It is the main ingredient for any gathering.

But everyone's sense of humour is a bit different. Some people use laughter and one-liners to deflect from serious issues. They resist sharing stories of substance, preferring to hear your laughter over your opinion or thoughts.

One of my clients mentioned that she didn't get a good read on her date for she felt he was delivering one-liners. She didn't feel she heard one authentic statement from her date the entire evening.

For some, the use of humour is a way to calm the nerves on a first date. For others, it is a way of coping with life.

The easiest way to tell the difference is whether or not you feel like you are an audience of one at a comedy club, as in the case of my client. If you are unable to have a discussion where he or she isn't trying to tickle your funny bone, then maybe that isn't the right person for you.

Another warning sign about humour is how it is used. There's a difference between seeing something in an unexpected way and making fun of someone or something. The latter can be detrimental to a relationship in the long run.

While laughter is attractive and builds camaraderie, it can also build a wall between two people trying to connect.

How do you feel about humour and dating? Do you have any stories to share? We would love to hear them in the comments section! For more information on dating, visit our website at itsjustlunchtoronto.com

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Interesting Toronto Singles are Seeking . . . YOU!

It's Just Lunch Toronto is seeking . . . YOU!

As a matchmaker, I am always looking for possible matches for my Toronto area clients.  These professional men and women lead busy, fulfilling lives with friends, family, career and travel. Yet, a successful love life is the one aspect they desire. They are motivated to find a partner to share all that life has to offer.

Are you interested? Please email me at date@ijlelite.ca or fill out this confidential online application.  I would love to chat about this unique dating possibility with you.

Learn more about It's Just Lunch Toronto or follow us at facebook.com/IJLToronto for dating tips and more on featured singles.

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Lean In, Think Big When It Comes to Love

There's been plenty of buzz around Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In Movement. The bare bones of the idea is to encourage women via forums, groups, lectures, circles and other methods of support to "lean in" to their careers. Push forward towards positions of leaderships.

I believe in the well-rounded person. If you are working to advance your career using a "lean in" approach, let's use the same technique to push forward with your relationships goals.

"My what?"

That's right. I said goals. You spend time, money and energy on your career, workouts and finances. Now you need to focus on romance. Life is about creating balance in all areas of your life. It isn't about letting your career dominate and push all other aspects into the background. Embrace your ability to multi-task and think big when it comes to love.

Here's how:

1) Call On Your Friends
If you needed help with a project, achieving a promotion or getting a business off the ground, you would send out a "hey, help a friend out" email to your contact list, Facebook friends and "circles." Why not when you are dating or even thinking about jumping into that pond? Your friends, if they know you are looking, will help you find the way to true love. The more the merrier.

2) Find Yourself While Dating
Dating is a chance for you to learn more about yourself. It's the Golden Ticket for you to try something new, such as a class or sport. It's the opportunity to date outside of your usual professions, age ranges or hair colour preference. This is a time to challenge yourself, your likes and who you are.

3) Check Your Expectations
Not every business meeting ends with a new client signing on the dotted line, but you will feel better about each meeting if you didn't walk in there with that expectation. Approach dating as not just looking for an important relationship, but as enjoying life. Date with the intention of making a new friend rather than expecting to meet your life partner.

It's Just Lunch Toronto has specialized in being the support team for thousands of single daters. There is no better place to find good advice about dating than from people who have gone through it before -- in our case, more than 50,000 times a month. If you want a bit more help, confidence and support in dating, try our matchmaking team. Visit www.itsjustlunchtoronto.com or call us at 1-416-703-3900.

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The More Honest You Are, The Better Your Next Date

As a matchmaker, I have heard all kinds of crazy, off the wall, can't-believe-I-just-heard-that reasons as to why a man or woman doesn't want to see their date again.

In many cases, the client turns on the matchmaking  team and blames the lackluster first date on the matchmaker. Need an example? Here are just a few:

"You sent me out on a date with someone who is clearly emotionally unavailable."

"They're just looking to hook up and that is not why I am here."

"I asked for sensitive and you set me up with someone who only wanted to talk about themselves the whole night."

What people do in this situation is put the blame on the matchmaker.  "You did this" or "It's your fault" is a common way of deflecting from the truth -- you're not into them.

You're not interested in your date. That's fine. We all have dud evenings. The truth of it is, the more honest you are with yourself, your matchmaker -- the better your next match will be.

If you don't want to see someone again, say that. Know enough about yourself to be able to pinpoint what the turn off was or things you found a bit annoying. Tell your matchmaker. Don't blame them because the chemistry wasn't there. Give them the recipe to help find it for the next date.

That being said, if your dream guy fails to text you post-cocktail meet-up, accept that he isn't into you. End of that romance story. Don't blame him for shortcomings, nearsightedness. This is a defense mechanism that prevents you from growing from the personal experience.

The key here is that you don't have to be interested in a relationship with every person you encounter . . . and neither do they. Drop your defenses and be honest. It's really the only way to take a first date to the next step.

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It’s Just Lunch Toronto Reviews from Matchmaking Clients

It's been a busy day of matching in the Toronto office. Nothing is more rewarding than hearing positive feedback from our clients! John from Toronto wants to share his IJL experience:

"The date coordinators in Toronto are professional and caring. I have been on some exceptional dates with a host of lovely talented women of substance that golf, ski, dive and much more. I would never have had the opportunity to meet these women in my day to day life. If you're a guy sincerely looking for a realistic lasting relationship this service is for you. As the saying goes you get what you pay for and in the case of IJL you get even more! Highly recommended." - John - Toronto, ON.

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Back-To-Dating Checklist from the Toronto Matchmakers

There’s something nostalgic about this back-to-school time of year..newly sharpened pencils, binders in all your favorite colors, old friends and new friends. Back in the day, your mom probably took you shopping for new clothes, and you stocked up on all of those fresh, new school supplies that armed you with confidence for the new school year.
Just like you had to get your ducks in a row before school started, it’s smart to prepare yourself before you go back out into the dating world after you get divorced or end a long-term relationship. Not only will it set you up for success, but it will calm any nerves and make you feel more confident when you go out on that first date. Just like sixth grade when you had those brand new Chuck Taylors. Think you’re ready to get back out into the dating world?

Here’s our It’s Just Lunch back-to-dating checklist from the Toronto matchmaking team:

Get a haircut
You don’t need a major change to your ‘do, a trim is enough. Men, most women prefer you to be well groomed. It shows you care about your appearance, which will make her feel like you care about the date. That doesn’t mean you have to ditch the facial hair, just keep it trimmed and neat. Or if you really want to treat yourself, head to the barbershop for a nice hot towel shave.

Ladies, even a quarter of an inch off the ends will make your hair feel lighter and healthier. Who doesn’t feel more confident when they walk out of the salon? If you want an even bigger boost, go for a blowout before your first date. Indulge – you deserve it!

Wear some new duds
The women out there probably don’t need an excuse to go shopping for a new outfit, but men are sometimes a tougher sell. We know many of you hate shopping, but consider grabbing a new shirt for your first time back out on the dating scene. It’s tough to go wrong with a nice button down that fits you correctly (i.e., fitted without buttons bursting across your chest or your stomach and the sleeves are the right length for your arms), and you can keep it untucked with jeans if you’re going to a casual venue.

Purge photos and mementos of the ex
Go ahead and throw out or put away photos and mementos of your ex – not because you expect this first date to come back home with you, but because it’s time to put yourself in the right mindset for meeting someone new. Imagine coming home from a great date and spotting the piece of art you and your ex picked up in a Toronto gallery last year. That will kill your mood quickly and make you less receptive to new possibilities.

Let go of the anger
While we’re talking about exes, if you’re ready to date again, you’re ready to let go of any anger you feel for your ex. Have you ever been on a date with someone who couldn’t stop talking about their ex and how they were so inconsiderate or did so many things that drove them crazy? If you haven’t, you will. It’s not pretty, so don’t be that guy or gal.

Get excited for your new adventure
You’re likely to go through a whole range of emotions as you re-enter the dating scene: nervous, anxious, hopeful and even angry. Embrace the excitement of starting a new chapter in your life. Take some time to think about what makes you happy, and then open yourself up to finding someone who enjoys those same things. Imagine what it will feel like when you find that person, and let that fuel you forward.

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Toronto's Bachelorette of the Week

Guys, I hope you’re ready because we’ve been interviewing some incredible women lately! Here is a little bit about a new female client that we’re all excited to be working with and matching:

Not only is our bachelorette a fun-loving blonde hair/brown-eyed stunner, she has the smarts to back it up!  She is a successful entrepreneur in her mid 30’s with a creative flair and the proud Mom to her son. She is very fit and active, she loves boating, cottage life and running marathons! She has an ongoing “love affair with France and Italy” that pairs well with her appreciation for fine wine and great food. Our beautiful “Bachelorette of the Month” is looking for a man that she can laugh with and has a positive outlook on life to possibly join her in her future travels! Is this you?

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How to Date a Dog Lover

Think romance has gone to the dogs? You might be right. According to the 2014 Canadian Pet Market Outlook, 32 per cent of Canadian households own dogs which equates to 5.9 million households. Don’t be surprised then if you run into a dog lover during your search for a partner. 

In the same way you hope to partner with a man or woman whose parenting styles align with your own, the same can be said about the relationship they have with their dog. So, before you adorn that dog bone with a big red bow, take a few minutes to prepare yourself for the lifestyle that goes along with dating a dog lover. 

Dogs are part of the family

There is no denying this, and if you’re dating a dog lover, there is certainly no arguing it. Dogs sometimes get better treatment than the people living under the same roof. It’s important for you to learn to respect and admire a dog owner’s commitment to treating their dog as more than just a pet, but a member of their family. The sooner you accept this, the better chance you have of leading a happy love life, with your partner and their canine companion. 

Dog lovers treat their dogs like children

What do people who love their dogs do? They do exactly what a person does with their child. They throw them birthday parties. They dress them up on Halloween. A survey taken in September of 2013, showed that of the 1,407 dog owners who responded, 86 % reported they used a picture of their pet as their screensaver. You may even find yourself explaining to a few people that the “baby waiting at home” is just a dog. 

You’ll never be greeted first

Unless you’re willing to sprint to the door, wide-eyed and enthusiastic, jumping up and down and running circles around their legs, you will never be greeted first. Their dog will always receive dibs on the “Honey, I’m home” kisses. Don’t let this hurt your feelings.  

You’re a third wheel

Dogs demand an unwavering amount of love and affection. Not only will you be asked to supply some of it, but also you’ll also never be entirely sure who is loved more, you or the dog. Frankly, you probably don’t want to find out. One-on-one cuddling will be non-existent. Not only will you be sharing your bed with the dog, but you’ll also realize that it is completely acceptable for their canine companion to carve a spot out on the couch during movie night, directly between the two of you. 

Invest in a lint roller

Or two. Or ten. If you were wondering who coined the term “fur coat,” it was dog owners. Most dog breeds shed, so get used to finding hairs in your favorite sweater from two winters ago. While you’re at it, say goodbye to your beloved white clothing, unless your lover has a white dog. In that case, consider parting ways with that charcoal duvet cover. 

Patience is key

Whether it’s a newborn puppy or a full grown dog, they’re probably chewing on something that they shouldn’t be. Chances are, you would’ve lost that old sock anyway. In other cases, you may come across an old squeaky chew toy hidden in your couch cushion, or trip over a half eaten rawhide. No one is blind to “doggy breath” or the odor that consumes the house when his or her fur child is wet. 

Try to stay as calm as possible during these instances. Take a few minutes to read about your lover’s breed and it’s nature. Learning to care for an animal is a process that requires both patience and commitment, both of which take time. 

Don’t try to fake it 

"Pretending – or outright lying – is not the way to begin a relationship, even if you think it’s a little white lie to say you love dogs," says Jacquie Brownridge - www.itsjustlunchtoronto.com. “It will come out eventually, so own up to it from the beginning. It’s unlikely to be a deal breaker unless you treat the dog poorly or start demanding they give the dog up.” 

If you find that you are both avid dog lovers, perfect! You may have just found your soulmate. However, if you can’t seem to understand the reasoning behind your lover’s strong appreciation of his or her furry companion, don’t try to fake it. At this point it’s important to determine if compromises need to be made, as well as if you can see yourself in this relationship long term, with the idea that it’s a package deal – you, him or her, and the dog.

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3 Dating Trends That Need to Be Deleted

Every generation is governed by dating rules. Those guidelines we shouldn't cross or have to follow in the pursuit of love.

The tricky thing is that singles feel they have to follow these arbitrary rules as they change from generation to generation. For example, the don't call within three days has become the text within three minutes of the termination of the date.

Here are just a few dating rules generated by the age of technology that we encourage you to break:

1) Updating Your Status
For many, changing of the Facebook status put a beginning (an an ending) time stamp to every new relationship. It was announcing to friends (old and new), family and even exs that you are moving on, a hot commodity and digging your new mate.

A relationship's start and end isn't dictated by Facebook status changes, likes or comments. It comes down to the two of you. Focus on what is between the two of you and leave the technology labels out of it.

2) Selfies and Online Photo Albums
All of those people who were once MySpacers know that technology comes and goes. New fads spring up, old sites go down. Don't keep your memories stored only on a computer or via an app. Print them out. Share them. Out of sight is out of mind and that is no good for a blossoming relationship.

3) Venting About Your SO Via Social Media
I get it. People need to vent, discuss and bond over the latest dumb thing their sig other has done. But to do it via social media without discussing with him is shaming and its shameful. Before jumping up on the digital podium, consider how you would feel if he/she was spamming all their friends about your latest antics. Be responsible for what you choose to share with the masses. You're not dating them. Your relationship shouldn't be shared with them.

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Stepping Out of Your Dating Rut

The definition of rut is "a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change." A dating rut is like watching NASCAR, it feels like you are making laps with the same people.

There are moments of dating that the whole process seems difficult difficult lemony difficult. It's exhausting. You're spending more money on dates than you are on rent. I get it. We've all been there.

Like any good sporting or life coach will tell you, if something isn't working -- change it. The easiest areas of dating to alter is your attitude, the venue and your "type".

Change Your Perspective
Your dating life starts in your mind and gets reflected into your actual experiences. If you focus on the negative aspects of dating or your date for the evening, you will only ever see the negative. Try taking one positive aspect away from each date. It would also help to go into each encounter with a sense of adventure or excitement rather than dread and fear.

Change of Venue
Feel like you are doing the same thing over and over again? Whether it is the same pub, restaurant or neighborhood, shaking up your dating venue or activity can put a spark into the routine. Instead of meeting up for dinner, think about coffee or lunch. Personally, I think weekend brunch is the ideal. You have time to connect, can make it short and you still have the rest of your day.

Change Your "Type"
Obviously, everyone has preferences when it comes to their ideal mate. However, these preferences can be a bit limiting if they don't allow ourselves to explore new people or new ideas. Look beyond your normal (but within legal) age range. Date someone a bit shorter or outside of your profession. Give into impulse and accept that lunch offer from the delivery guy. Step out of your norm.

Dating is a numbers game. The more potential mates you meet, the more likely it is that you will find the one.

If something isn't working, change it. It's the only way something new will happen.

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Light a Fire with Your Date: Go Camping

So, you've been out with your new sweetheart several times. You've done the dinner date, been to concerts in the park and even backyard barbecues with each of your besties.  By now, you know she takes her coffee sans milk and that he's not fond of shellfish. Yet, you find yourself wondering if this person could be "the one." How do you know she is right for you?

It's time to test your true colors in a potentially make or break activity that is cleverly disguised as camping.

As the saying goes, you don’t really know people until have to rough it with them. Hitting the mountains with a tent, backpack and sleeping bag strips a relationship down to the bare essentials and can be a good indicator of the success of a future relationship. Both parties are out of their usual environment and forced to work together towards a common goal (such as erecting a tent or even finding firewood). How do the two of you react to stress? Or do you laugh off your mistakes and just enjoy the scenery?

Here are a few tips when planning a camping date with your honey:

PLAN TOGETHER
A first trip (and the planning of it) is symbolic of things to come. How do you want to set the tone? Mutually agree upon the camping destination and activities. If you’re into mountain climbing and she’s not, maybe you’ll want to consider a rafting trip. I also recommend more than just an overnight adventure. It's easy to put up with certain conditions overnight but more than one tends to shine a spotlight on our quirks.

IMAGINE WORSE CASE SCENARIOS
What if you get stung by a bee? Sprain an ankle on the mountain? Unexpected incidents can only be expected when camping, but they can also be stressors on a budding romance. Have band-aids on hand and a Plan B for rain.

SENSE OF ROMANCE
No matter how you camp, you will be alone with your honey for an extended period of time. Use the time to get to know one another. Share childhood stories or dreams about the future. Debate the best way to make an ice cream sundae. Smile. Handhold while climbing the trail. Let Mother Nature fuel your passion for each other.

BRING ON THE BEDHEAD
Be prepared to see your sexy companion in ways you have never seen them before. Without curling irons, makeup or a long hot shower, will they still be sexy after an all-day climb? Since perfumes and smelly creams can attract unwanted attention from certain critters, be prepared to welcome the intimacies of camping -- for better or worse. Bedhead, marches in the wood to do your business and the fine art of brushing your teeth by the creek are just a few of the highlights. Embrace it. Enjoy it.

Something to keep in mind. It's emotional intimacy, being able to share your truest, deepest and most vulnerable self with your significant other when makes us feel loved. Skip judgments and focus on how you connect, how comfortable you are being yourself around them and how often you laugh together.

A relationship is like any other long-term investment: it requires a great deal of time, effort and devotions. Couples can come and go, but real relationships are those that can survive whatever life throws at them. They go through it together and come out closer than before.

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Be the CEO of Your Dating Life

You know what you want in a car or the dimensions of a TV. You have zeroed in on your favorite toothpaste and only purchase your favorite dark roast bean for your morning cup of Joe.  You know what makes you comfortable at home and efficient while at work.

For many, dating is the one area where people flounder when it comes to reaching beyond their comfort zone. A lot of people are unhappy with their dating life.  In a world that is obsessed with having the world at our fingertips, the dating scene has morphed to keep up with the ever-changing technological shifts and it is no where near maximizing efficiency.

Rather than waiting to see if Mr./Miss Right would give them a ring, people are taking matters into their own smart phones. They are able to research a potential date via Google, view social media or dating profiles and weed out those who don’t meet their basic criteria.

If it sounds more like HR sifting through job applications, that's because it is. The dating landscape has mutated. People are no longer waiting for fate or serendipity to step up to the plate but are being proactive about their dating life. Singles are taking a CEO to their dating life business — investing time and money to bump up the efficiency number without taking them out of a comfort zone.


Here are just a few other areas where your inner CEO should take over and decide the direction of your love life:

1) Interview More Than One Candidate
If you were interviewing candidates for a position within your company, you wouldn't pick the first person who walked through the door with a resume, would you? The more potential partners you meet, the greater your chances of finding the ideal one.

2) It's All About the Branding
You are the product. How would you position or present yourself to your target demo (single)? What about your look, style, posture or even attitude? What you put out there is what you get back. Negative thoughts produce negative results. Know what you have to offer and that you are a hot ticket. Talk about your positive aspects and keep a positive outlook. You are the product. Sell yourself well.

3) Network to Further Your Goals
Networking is something we all have to do at one time or another. Whether it is a cocktail party or a chamber meeting, you know that the connections may start there but carry forward.  Dating, like business, has a way of starting in the most unusual places. If you are looking to extend your dating network, every encounter becomes the starting point for something amazing.

4) Build Trust, Solidify Relationships
In order to win and maintain clients, businesses must build up trust. It comes in stages and there are steps to building it. What's your motivation behind the relationship? Where do you want to go? Same with dating, building trust creates a strong foundation for future developments.

5) Address Problems Promptly
Little issues have the tendency to become really big ones. Businesses do well by resolving issues quickly. As in dating, confronting problems head on saves headache in the long run.

6) Pick a Complimentary Partner
Magic happens when you and someone with complimentary strengths join forces. The two of you are able to accomplish more then the two of you could do separately.

In the end, you are looking for the perfect match.  While the other party may not be perfect, they are the perfect match for you.

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How Successful People Can Be More Successful at Dating

It's the old story replicated in Hollywood movies, self-help books and on dating profiles: the attractive, smart, witty, funny, successful business person who has been unlucky in love.
It's a story we are all familiar with and may even be the starring role in the current remake.

How can these successful professionals use their skills to get a promotion in their love life? Here are a few ways:

1) Be Proactive
In the business world, top sales personal and managers don't wait for the right person to walk through the door. They seek out opportunities to mix, mingle, negotiate and sign on the dotted line.

Put yourself out there. Find ways to interact with people in your daily life such as at the coffee shop or waiting in line at the grocery store. Each encounter furthers your social skills and opens you up to the possibility of what could happen.

2) Be Willing to Take the Calculated Risk
There are no guarantees in the office and some decisions come with a certain amount of risk. There is risk of failure, ridicule etc. But it is part of the working landscape and helps us become better employees, and better people, in the process.

Take a risk. Show your vulnerability when connecting with a possible partner. Let them see the softer side. Reveal your dreams, hopes and grand ideas.

3) Polish Your First Impression
Make a fantastic first impression like you would during the interview process. Be positive. Smile.

4) Network. Network. Network.
Okay, so the person across the table from you may not be your dream guy or gal. Such is life. But they may be the middle person to The One. Nurture your connections and they will return the favor.

5) Ask for Resources
You ask for raises, promotions, additional help and more input on the job. Communicate with those around you about what it is you are looking for in a potential mate or, to the point, that you are even looking. We all need a little help from our friends.

Resources:

• How to Transfer Success at Work to Success in Love

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Listening is the Easiest Way to Impress Your Date

How often do you practice your "elevator pitch" for the upcoming networking event? How many times have you rehearsed what you should say on a first date? Or what you are going to say if they ask about work (family, hobbies)?

We all do it. It's our way of handling the expected -- nerves! Most of us approach a date thinking of what it is we want to tell the other person. Our personal "elevator pitch" that highlights our successes, accomplishments and what makes us a great catch. Rather than a conversation, the back and forth exchange starts to sound like a retelling of our relationship resumes. Not really talking, just getting out what has to be said.

The easiest way to turn the date around is with three simple words: Listen.  Reflect.  Respond.

Listen to what your date has to say. Think about what was just mentioned. Respond with a question that furthers the conversation or add your RELATED story.

Men and woman are more impressed with a potential partner who talks WITH as opposed to one who talks AT them.

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Add Dimensions to Your Relationships Beyond Words

Any good designer will tell you that the key to creating a warm, comfortable room is by adding layers of variation in texture. It's what makes the space interesting. It creates depth. It adds dimensions to your home.

As a matchmaker, I think the same applies to relationships.

Love is a powerful emotion that can be conveyed much deeply through our actions and the little things we do. Add "variation in texture" to your relationship by showing how much the person in your life means to you. Go a step beyond saying the three little words. Remember the song that was playing when you first kissed. Leave love notes on their pillow when you will be away from home.

That same thought, don't get blindsided by someone who says the right words but their actions tell a different story. A guy who tells his girlfriend that he wants to spend more time with her and disappears every weekend to hit the links may not be the ideal mate.

Behavior has to add up. It will reveal a lot.

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A Second Date? How to Handle the End of Your First Date

The dinner is done. The tab has been split. The after-dinner mint consumed. Now what? Do you ask for a second date or let the moment pass? Well, to be frank, this is the part of the date that everyone hates.

Let Them Down Gently
If you're not interested in seeing them again, it's important to be straightforward. If the person isn't right for you, then it's better to deal with it head on right now than have it drag out over several emails, texts and IMs. Most people appreciate it when you speak your mind, but make sure you don't just dump your feelings on them. Be responsible and be kind. Don't make false promises about what may come next if you're not into it. Just thank them for a lovely evening and go your separate ways.

 Five Things to Say If You're Not Interested: 
1) "Best of luck and I hope you have fun on your future dates. Thanks again."
2) "I can see us becoming friends. I'd like to invite you to my next party."
3) "I had a good time but I don't think we have that much in common."
4) "I have a friend you might like, can I give him/her your number?"
5) "I feel the chemistry just isn't quite right between us." (Implies that it is a mutual thing.)

 Asking For Another Date If you've had a good time and you really like them, what do you need to do to seal the deal? Don't be afraid to say so. Be as enthusiastic as you feel. Say, "I had a great time and I'd love to do it again soon." Then hand them one of your business cards. The ball is in their court and they'll call if they are interested. If you receive a card, I recommend calling the next day to say thank you or indicate you would like to go on another date. 

Five Things to Say If You ARE Interested: 1) "I had a great time. Would you like to get together again soon?"
2) "Would you be interested in dinner next time?"
 3) "This was a great lunch. I'd like to get to know you better."
4) "I'm going hiking on Sunday and would love for you to join me."
5) "Now that the hard part is out of the way, are you interested in going out again."

 In the end, honesty is the best policy. Treat the other person as you would want to be treated.

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To Date or Not to Date Outside Your Profession: Pros & Cons

Do you or someone you know base your dating preferences on a person's profession or career? If you've ever wondered what it would be like to date professionals within your field or outside your industry, then this is the blog post for you.

After polling more than 4,000 singles, It's Just Lunch discovered that nearly 70% of professional singles preferred dating someone outside their industry completely rather than dating someone in a similar profession or position as themselves (10%), or someone with different position but in a similar line of work (10%), or someone in the same industry regardless of title or profession (10%).

Despite the fact that more than 2,800 singles agreed they’d prefer dating someone in a completely different industry than themselves, every relationship comes with its own unique set of challenges relative to the two people in a relationship together.

In Your Same Field of Expertise
Dating someone in the same profession can be a lot of fun, granted. It can bring the two of you together in an intimately close way that wouldn't be possible had you been working in completely different fields. You are able to share the same frustrations, the same work woes and you might even have quite a few colleagues in common. However, the novelty of it all may wear out sooner rather than later if you don’t have anything else in common besides your job. It will feel like your are surrounded by the office, even when you are no where near it.

This can also lead to unhealthy competition, especially if even just one of you is the really competitive type. You might find yourselves in a secret contest over who can outdo each other or get promoted faster within their respective organization. This can ultimately lead to heated arguments based from  feelings of insecurity and unchecked resentment.

Dating Outside Your Profession
On the flip side, dating someone who works in a very different field can be just as exhilarating, giving you a glimpse into a whole new world outside your realm. A real estate agent dating someone in law enforcement is going to see that profession in a whole new light just like a marketing executive dating someone in the medical field is going to see health field from a very unique perspective. From this perspective, you’d feel like as an outsider looking in, but through the lens of an insider.

Dating someone in a different industry can bring fresh and new conversation to the table, creating a more interesting and stimulating dialogue. While sharing different careers can make things exciting, it can also be hard to understand where your partner is coming from at times, especially when you know so little about her field of work making it all the more challenging to relate to her and help her with frustrations at work. This can create a lot of misunderstandings if neither party feels comfortable communicating their needs to each other.

The key takeaway here is that any relationship can work with if you have the ability to empathize with your partner and put yourself in their shoes, even if only for a moment in time. The more you communicate how you really feel about this here or that there to your partner, the easier it will become to understand where each of you are coming from during moments of potential or actual conflict.


Remember, your career is just a small part of what makes you unique. Don't boil your relationship down to just one aspect of it.

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How Dating is Like Hiring an Employee

I recently read an article on Forbes.com, entitled "Four Ways to Improve Your Hiring Process," and couldn't help thinking how it related to dating.

In a company, the hiring process is the most important strategic element of a company because "every new employee will either improve the organization or lower it -- and managers should be seeking and hiring employees who will enable the company to grow and become more profitable."

In dating, the first few dates is the most important part of the process. This is where you determine if you want to see the person again, if the chemistry is there. This is also where you look to see if the other person is someone who will help you grow, develop and push you to be the best you can be.

The four tips included in the article are:

• Skip the "magic bullet" questions
• Clearly define the position and what it takes to be successful
• Test candidates
• Include others in the hiring (dating) process

SKIP THE MAGIC BULLET QUESTIONS (or Focus On The Person)
 While outlandish questions (what if . . .) have their place and can be playful, focus on getting to know the person and what they value. Listen to what is important to them, even if you have no interest in gardening. It will save you time in the long run.

CLEARLY DEFINE THE POSITION (or Know What You Want)
What are you looking for? Are you looking for a long-term commitment? Tennis game companion? Knowing what you want and your dealbreakers (religion? smoking? children?) will give you a roadmap for evaluating the current "candidate" and comparing him with future ones.

TEST CANDIDATES (or Call Them On Their BS)
Anyone who has created an online profile knows that certain things like age, weight, height, likes, dislikes and even location can be fudged a bit. I'm not encouraging you to be completely skeptic but don't be afraid to ask the hard questions. Its by peeling away the layers that we are able to find those partners that stand out.

INCLUDE OTHERS
Emotions, beers and circumstances have a way of clouding our judgment on a potential partner. Before getting exclusive, bring your buddies in on the decision. Get their perspective. The best candidates are those that get a thumbs up from your support network.  Those additional perspectives greatly increase the odds of finding the best candidates.
This may sound like it takes the romance out of the process, but a bit of preplanning can save you a lot of heartache in the end.

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The Unexpected Twists of Being an Older Single

Often times, midlife singles jumping into (or back into) the dating scene can feel a bit panicky. It's like the hourglass has shifted and time is running out to find the one. They, at first, feel like they are too old to be dating and yet to young to be alone for the rest of their lives.

These contradictory feelings of being out of step arise after the breakup of a long relationship or perhaps the grieving process after the death of a loved one. But there are a couple of unexpected twists to being an older single.

Increase in Connections
People often are able to make newer connections or further the ones they have during this time. Other friends are going through divorce, widowed or past the child-bearing years and experience a bit more freedom in their schedules. Coffee dates are squeezed in between yoga and soccer practice schedules. It's a bit more open-ended, easier way of life.

Increase Range of Prospects
According to an article on Psychology Today.com, "in her book Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted, Judith Sills argues that older singles should consider a wider range of prospects, since they're not looking to create a family."

A person doesn't have to share your religion for you aren't raising children together. You shouldn't evaluate a mate based upon whether they are marriage material. Evaluate them on whether you enjoy spending time with them. Are they fun? Do they make you laugh?

Increase in Confidence
You have a few more years of social interactions and connections than you did in your 20s. There's a confidence that comes from interpersonal skills gained from work and in making friends. You know who you are and what it is you want.

Resources:

• Singles: Patterns of Pursuit (How to Shake Up Your Dating Patterns)

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It Really Does Take Two to Tango!

Some singles have a hard time deciphering whether or not their date is genuinely interested in them. People express themselves differently depending on their personality temperament or even past experiences. In fact, it's not at all uncommon for some singles to mistake attention for affection.

The key to finding out if someone is interested in you as a friend, or possibly more, is through the act of reciprocity. Think about this way. Most people are afraid of rejection, regardless if you're a man or a woman. It really doesn't matter who makes the first move, just as someone as long as someone is making a move to begin with. This gives the other person a chance to respond to the move with further encouragements or a move of his or her own.

For example, simply making eye contact with someone may not be enough to indicate interest, but if you start a conversation with someone, you can gauge their level of interest based on the response. If the person continues to engage with, that person is interested in continuing the conversations until that interest escalates or wanes. However, if the person isn't really engaging with you and is responding with simple, one-word answers, then that person just isn't interested enough to reciprocate.

The common expression "it takes two to tango" has never been more true than in dating and relationships. It's a wonderful dance of give and take to a song that never stops. The next time you meet someone with romantic potential, put out a few feelers in the form of playful comments or potential opportunities to hang out in the future and see if the response you get is favorable or revealing in other ways. 

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Dating Pitfalls: "If Only . . ." Trap

"If only I could win the lottery."
"If only I would've taken that job."
"If only I could meet a nice, job-stable man."
"If only there was a decent girl in Toronto to marry."

Oh, the list goes on. The allure of the "if only" is that we utter it when things aren't going the way we want or expected. It's our way of saying that "if only" this occurred, our lives would be better, fuller, etc.

"The phrase “if only” is the spandex of rationalization. It can stretch as far as we need it to in order to accommodate the list of considerations we want to include," according to an article on Psychology Today entitled "The Two Words You Have to Stop Using" by Peg O'Connor Ph.D.

Those two words can lead you to dwell on the past or ruminate on mistakes without moving forward. It has the power to displace responsibility or take ownership of upcoming events off your shoulders. "If only" takes the reins from you and doesn't allow you to lead yourself down a chosen path to fulfillment.

It can lead to bitterness, resentment and hopelessness in your dating situation. Dating is meant to be fun and full of hope, opportunities and (realistic) expectations.

The three keys from breaking out of the "if only" trap are simple, easy and well worth the effort:

1) Stop Measuring Yourself
Don't dwell on what others have, can do or are wearing. Appreciate what you have to offer in a relationship and know that the right person will recognize it in you. Tell yourself that you are great just the way you are rather than "if only . . .". Leaving a great impression in your mind will actually give you a positive outlook -- on you and dating.

2) Focus on What You Have
It's human nature to find what we are lacking and lament upon it. Instead, shift your perspective and look for what you have. Great friends, excellent job and a great curling draw. By looking for what is right in your world, you stop ruminating on what could be "if only."

3) Postivity Breeds Positivity
Surround yourself with people who treat you with the love and respect you deserve. If you find yourself surrounded by overly critical or negative people, perhaps it is time to do a bit of weeding in your relationships. Dating can be a very vulnerable time and having a supportive, positive network of friends will breed the same in you.

Resources:

• Psychology Today.com: Two Words You Need to Stop Using

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The Best Question to Ask on a First Date

Everyone faces challenges, no matter their economic status or age. Talking about them helps us to bond with those around us. In fact, it helps to open the doors to sharing priorities and what is important to them.

According to the former head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program Robin Dreeke via an article by Eric Barker, the best question to ask someone, even on a first date, is about the challenges they face. Dreeke goes on to suggest asking "What kind of challenges did you have at work this week?" or "What kind of challenges do you have living in this part of the country?"

This isn't opening a door for complaining but rather seeing how a person perceives their upcoming obstacles and find ways to overcome them. Be sure to take the role of supportive cheerleader or coach, and don't spiral into a Negative Nelly conversation.

Asking about their challenges shows a geniune interest in their life, and them.

Happy Dating

Resources:

• Eric Barker's "How to Get People to Like You" 

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Warming Things Up on the Second Date Can Impact Your Date's Perceptions

Ok. We’ve all been there. Fighting off the first date jitters can be quite a job.

 A call to the best friend for support, an emergency chat with your therapist (or the first available neighbor at the mailbox) and possibly even a one-sided conversation with your furry pet.

BUT WHAT ABOUT THE SECOND DATE?

Those first date jitters grew into real anticipation in the past few days and now, expectations of another great time are running high. And here comes the mental hamster wheel:    “What if tonight isn’t as good as last time?” “Were they really that attractive or was it just really excellent lighting?” “What if I LOVE tonight and they decide they don’t want to date anymore?”

Wow! First off,  breathe! The first date ice has been broken and it sounds like the two of you are interested enough in each other for a second date. Remember, dating is just about getting to know some better. That's it.

Second, you have a date to get ready for, so here's a little insight into human perceptions courtesy of Dr. Amy Muise.  In order to keep things going well, you need to warm things up . . . literally.  Research has been done that proves that physical warmth impacts perception of a person’s physiological warmth. What? No really.

Muise, a social psychologist, revealed a study that showed offering a hot cup of coffee as opposed to an iced-coffee to someone, positively influenced the opinion of the receiver of the beverage...the person who was offered something warm (soup, a beverage, whatever) rated the person who offered the warmth as more "friendly" and "trustworthy" as opposed to the participants who were offered something cold. All good opinions, especially for a second date.

So, the lesson? When it’s time to order...BRING ON THE HEAT! Maybe opt for teriyaki instead of sushi, coffee instead of iced tea, and you’ll have a better chance of securing that third date!

*http://www.scienceofrelationships.com/home/2011/8/9/how-to-warm-things-up-on-your-next-date.html

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Throw Your Own Singles Super Bowl Bash - Tips and Ideas

The Super Bowl event is one of those occasions singles everywhere can enjoy regardless of how they feel about football or the teams they will be rooting for.  It offers a chance for strangers to come together in camaraderie, shared passions and on the field competition. It is a celebration of amazing feats and a sound board for the occasional disappointment.

Which leads us to ask, where will you be watching the Super Bowl this year? No plans yet? May we suggest that you host your own Super Bowl Bash?

Hosting your own party is a great way to show off your social charms and bring like-minded singles into your home. Cook up your favorite dish, invite everyone you know and ask them to bring their favorite dish or a single friend. Many singles prefer house parties anyway so this is an excellent opportunity to draw in singles who would otherwise be sitting at home alone or feeling out of place at a pub. If you bump into a cutie at the grocery store or coffee shop and discover they don’t have any plans for the big event, invite him or her too!

Playing host can definitely have its perks and work to your advantage, especially if you’re single. Here are a few ways to make it easy on you while scoring big points with your guests.

Potluck / BYOB 
Spread the work around so you don’t have to slave in the kitchen or at the grill while your guests are enjoying themselves. Have your guests help cater the event. It is best to keep track of who is bringing what so that you don't end up with eight veggie platters. Boom! Instant party!

Order Out! 
Nothing says easy like delivery! Just remember to order the pizzas or takeout early for restaurants get hit fast and hard on game day. Have guests bring drinks, snacks or desserts and settle in for the game!

Running Low? Do a Run!
Don't be afraid to pop out during halftime to restock chips, cheese or sweets. Take a collection if you need to? The idea is that this can be as easy, low key as you want it to be. Don't stress.

Stock Up Early
You know you will need ice, napkins, plates and cups. Stock up early and then you don't have to worry about it during last minute prep. Extra points for purchasing items in team colors!

Share your Super Bowl stories with us in the comments section below!

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Too Busy to Date? Tips for Busy, Professional Singles

You’re busy. Everyone these days seems to be running full speed ahead with a demanding jobs, working out at the gym, hobbies and family events. We flutter from one to-do to another in a hurried pace that barely allows us enough time to breath let alone make new connections with potential mates.

Oh, that not to say you haven't tried. You have. You've tried the traditional ways of meeting new people including that awkward yoga class. You've had more than your fair share of blind dates set up by well-meaning friends, scoured the Internet dating sites and made attempts at the bar scene. The next step is to go out in the world and meet new people outside your immediate social circle – but how?

Glad you asked. We have a few ideas.

Network and Dating
Having a genuine interest in getting to know new people and keeping an open mind while you’re networking might end up being more valuable than you first imagine.

It really is a win-win. First, you will be there for business – an area you are already comfortable with. You will be more at ease. Second, you will be meeting people who share a common ground or goal and who are also at ease. Third, you’re discussing something you are know and are passionate about — which will reveal the authentic you. (Read: nothing is sexier!)

Ask for a Date Like You Would Ask for a Meeting
You encounter someone you think would add something to your next project. You take their card, email them and schedule a meeting. Take that habit and transition it into your dating world. You met someone who you feel a bit more than a passing attraction for. Don't get shy. Make sure your words and actions make it clear to the other person you are enjoying the time you are spending together, even if it is just a weather conversation at the bus stop. Smile, have a back and forth conversation and say “I've enjoyed this. Can we meet for coffee sometime?”

Short and Sweet
Many busy professionals will say that they don't have time to date. That's not true. First dates should be short, sweet and long enough to test if there is chemistry there. A first date is really about determining whether or not you want to see the person again. In most cases, that is decided in less than 20 minutes. A coffee break. That's it.

TIP: If you do want to see the person again, make plans for your second date before you part ways from the first date – that way there is absolutely no confusion about how the date went for either party. It will make the rest of your day a bit easier.


Save Time - Use a Matchmaker
Your time is precious – you shouldn't be wasting it online sorting through hundreds of profiles every night. You should be out meeting amazing, relationship ready people! Let our matchmakers do the work for you. We specialize in setting our clients up on fun, quality first dates with like-minded people. We take care of all of the details – from selecting your matches and giving you a description of who you are going to meet to the reservation – we've got you covered. All you need to do is show up and have fun on your date!

www.itsjustlunchtoronto.com

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