Everyone Loves a Sense of Humour; But It's Tricky

One of the most popular personality traits people claim to be searching for is a sense of humour. My clients usually tell me that their dream guy or gal is someone who can make them laugh.

We are all attracted, in love and friendship, to the people who lift our moods, give a spring in our step and help shine the light on the brighter side of life. They make us feel good and it feels good to be with them.

Laughter has a way of bringing us together. It forges bonds among family and friends. It is the main ingredient for any gathering.

But everyone's sense of humour is a bit different. Some people use laughter and one-liners to deflect from serious issues. They resist sharing stories of substance, preferring to hear your laughter over your opinion or thoughts.

One of my clients mentioned that she didn't get a good read on her date for she felt he was delivering one-liners. She didn't feel she heard one authentic statement from her date the entire evening.

For some, the use of humour is a way to calm the nerves on a first date. For others, it is a way of coping with life.

The easiest way to tell the difference is whether or not you feel like you are an audience of one at a comedy club, as in the case of my client. If you are unable to have a discussion where he or she isn't trying to tickle your funny bone, then maybe that isn't the right person for you.

Another warning sign about humour is how it is used. There's a difference between seeing something in an unexpected way and making fun of someone or something. The latter can be detrimental to a relationship in the long run.

While laughter is attractive and builds camaraderie, it can also build a wall between two people trying to connect.

How do you feel about humour and dating? Do you have any stories to share? We would love to hear them in the comments section! For more information on dating, visit our website at itsjustlunchtoronto.com