These contradictory feelings of being out of step arise after the breakup of a long relationship or perhaps the grieving process after the death of a loved one. But there are a couple of unexpected twists to being an older single.
Increase in Connections
People often are able to make newer connections or further the ones they have during this time. Other friends are going through divorce, widowed or past the child-bearing years and experience a bit more freedom in their schedules. Coffee dates are squeezed in between yoga and soccer practice schedules. It's a bit more open-ended, easier way of life.
Increase Range of Prospects
According to an article on Psychology Today.com, "in her book Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted, Judith Sills argues that older singles should consider a wider range of prospects, since they're not looking to create a family."
A person doesn't have to share your religion for you aren't raising children together. You shouldn't evaluate a mate based upon whether they are marriage material. Evaluate them on whether you enjoy spending time with them. Are they fun? Do they make you laugh?
Increase in Confidence
You have a few more years of social interactions and connections than you did in your 20s. There's a confidence that comes from interpersonal skills gained from work and in making friends. You know who you are and what it is you want.
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