Wednesday, 8 April 2015

How Dating is Like Hiring an Employee

I recently read an article on, entitled "Four Ways to Improve Your Hiring Process," and couldn't help thinking how it related to dating.

In a company, the hiring process is the most important strategic element of a company because "every new employee will either improve the organization or lower it -- and managers should be seeking and hiring employees who will enable the company to grow and become more profitable."

In dating, the first few dates is the most important part of the process. This is where you determine if you want to see the person again, if the chemistry is there. This is also where you look to see if the other person is someone who will help you grow, develop and push you to be the best you can be.

The four tips included in the article are:

  • Skip the "magic bullet" questions
  • Clearly define the position and what it takes to be successful
  • Test candidates
  • Include others in the hiring (dating) process
 While outlandish questions (what if . . .) have their place and can be playful, focus on getting to know the person and what they value. Listen to what is important to them, even if you have no interest in gardening. It will save you time in the long run.

What are you looking for? Are you looking for a long-term commitment? Tennis game companion? Knowing what you want and your dealbreakers (religion? smoking? children?) will give you a roadmap for evaluating the current "candidate" and comparing him with future ones.

TEST CANDIDATES (or Call Them On Their BS)
Anyone who has created an online profile knows that certain things like age, weight, height, likes, dislikes and even location can be fudged a bit. I'm not encouraging you to be completely skeptic but don't be afraid to ask the hard questions. Its by peeling away the layers that we are able to find those partners that stand out.

Emotions, beers and circumstances have a way of clouding our judgment on a potential partner. Before getting exclusive, bring your buddies in on the decision. Get their perspective. The best candidates are those that get a thumbs up from your support network.  Those additional perspectives greatly increase the odds of finding the best candidates.
This may sound like it takes the romance out of the process, but a bit of preplanning can save you a lot of heartache in the end.