The Best Question to Ask on a First Date

Everyone faces challenges, no matter their economic status or age. Talking about them helps us to bond with those around us. In fact, it helps to open the doors to sharing priorities and what is important to them.

According to the former head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program Robin Dreeke via an article by Eric Barker, the best question to ask someone, even on a first date, is about the challenges they face. Dreeke goes on to suggest asking "What kind of challenges did you have at work this week?" or "What kind of challenges do you have living in this part of the country?"

This isn't opening a door for complaining but rather seeing how a person perceives their upcoming obstacles and find ways to overcome them. Be sure to take the role of supportive cheerleader or coach, and don't spiral into a Negative Nelly conversation.

Asking about their challenges shows a geniune interest in their life, and them.

Happy Dating

Resources:

• Eric Barker's "How to Get People to Like You"