Everyone Loves a Sense of Humour; But It's Tricky

One of the most popular personality traits people claim to be searching for is a sense of humour. My clients usually tell me that their dream guy or gal is someone who can make them laugh.

We are all attracted, in love and friendship, to the people who lift our moods, give a spring in our step and help shine the light on the brighter side of life. They make us feel good and it feels good to be with them.

Laughter has a way of bringing us together. It forges bonds among family and friends. It is the main ingredient for any gathering.

But everyone's sense of humour is a bit different. Some people use laughter and one-liners to deflect from serious issues. They resist sharing stories of substance, preferring to hear your laughter over your opinion or thoughts.

One of my clients mentioned that she didn't get a good read on her date for she felt he was delivering one-liners. She didn't feel she heard one authentic statement from her date the entire evening.

For some, the use of humour is a way to calm the nerves on a first date. For others, it is a way of coping with life.

The easiest way to tell the difference is whether or not you feel like you are an audience of one at a comedy club, as in the case of my client. If you are unable to have a discussion where he or she isn't trying to tickle your funny bone, then maybe that isn't the right person for you.

Another warning sign about humour is how it is used. There's a difference between seeing something in an unexpected way and making fun of someone or something. The latter can be detrimental to a relationship in the long run.

While laughter is attractive and builds camaraderie, it can also build a wall between two people trying to connect.

How do you feel about humour and dating? Do you have any stories to share? We would love to hear them in the comments section! For more information on dating, visit our website at itsjustlunchtoronto.com

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Interesting Toronto Singles are Seeking . . . YOU!

It's Just Lunch Toronto is seeking . . . YOU!

As a matchmaker, I am always looking for possible matches for my Toronto area clients.  These professional men and women lead busy, fulfilling lives with friends, family, career and travel. Yet, a successful love life is the one aspect they desire. They are motivated to find a partner to share all that life has to offer.

Are you interested? Please email me at date@ijlelite.ca or fill out this confidential online application.  I would love to chat about this unique dating possibility with you.

Learn more about It's Just Lunch Toronto or follow us at facebook.com/IJLToronto for dating tips and more on featured singles.

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Lean In, Think Big When It Comes to Love

There's been plenty of buzz around Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In Movement. The bare bones of the idea is to encourage women via forums, groups, lectures, circles and other methods of support to "lean in" to their careers. Push forward towards positions of leaderships.

I believe in the well-rounded person. If you are working to advance your career using a "lean in" approach, let's use the same technique to push forward with your relationships goals.

"My what?"

That's right. I said goals. You spend time, money and energy on your career, workouts and finances. Now you need to focus on romance. Life is about creating balance in all areas of your life. It isn't about letting your career dominate and push all other aspects into the background. Embrace your ability to multi-task and think big when it comes to love.

Here's how:

1) Call On Your Friends
If you needed help with a project, achieving a promotion or getting a business off the ground, you would send out a "hey, help a friend out" email to your contact list, Facebook friends and "circles." Why not when you are dating or even thinking about jumping into that pond? Your friends, if they know you are looking, will help you find the way to true love. The more the merrier.

2) Find Yourself While Dating
Dating is a chance for you to learn more about yourself. It's the Golden Ticket for you to try something new, such as a class or sport. It's the opportunity to date outside of your usual professions, age ranges or hair colour preference. This is a time to challenge yourself, your likes and who you are.

3) Check Your Expectations
Not every business meeting ends with a new client signing on the dotted line, but you will feel better about each meeting if you didn't walk in there with that expectation. Approach dating as not just looking for an important relationship, but as enjoying life. Date with the intention of making a new friend rather than expecting to meet your life partner.

It's Just Lunch Toronto has specialized in being the support team for thousands of single daters. There is no better place to find good advice about dating than from people who have gone through it before -- in our case, more than 50,000 times a month. If you want a bit more help, confidence and support in dating, try our matchmaking team. Visit www.itsjustlunchtoronto.com or call us at 1-416-703-3900.

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