Add Dimensions to Your Relationships Beyond Words

Any good designer will tell you that the key to creating a warm, comfortable room is by adding layers of variation in texture. It's what makes the space interesting. It creates depth. It adds dimensions to your home.

As a matchmaker, I think the same applies to relationships.

Love is a powerful emotion that can be conveyed much deeply through our actions and the little things we do. Add "variation in texture" to your relationship by showing how much the person in your life means to you. Go a step beyond saying the three little words. Remember the song that was playing when you first kissed. Leave love notes on their pillow when you will be away from home.

That same thought, don't get blindsided by someone who says the right words but their actions tell a different story. A guy who tells his girlfriend that he wants to spend more time with her and disappears every weekend to hit the links may not be the ideal mate.

Behavior has to add up. It will reveal a lot.

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Show How You Feel

It's possible to go a long time in a relationship without saying those three little words. Often, actions speak louder than words and there are many other "little things" that indicate a person's level of affection for one another.

Women tend to respond to the "little things" one does, those tidbits of information that might seem irrelevant to most men but become benchmarks in a woman's relationship. These involve remembering the song that was playing on the radio when you first kissed, her favorite color or flower.

Men respond equally to small gestures. leaving love notes under his pillow or packing  a few protein bars and a vitamin drink in his briefcase before he heads off for a long day at work can be extremely touching to a guy.

You don't have to exceed your credit limit to show your sweetheart that he or she is special to you. In the same respect, "talk is cheap" and you can throw out "I love yous" like plates at a Greek wedding, but in order for the words to really make an impact, they must be backed up with significant action.

It's important to observe the non-verbal clues in a relationship. Determining if someone is right for you lies as much in his or her actions and in what they don't do, as it does in what they say. Telling your girlfriend that you want to spend more time with her and then hitting the golf course on the weekend doesn't measure up.

Pay attention to the special things that touch your honey's heart and make an effort to introduce these into your relationship on a regular basis. It takes effort and mindfulness to create a phenomenal affinity with another person. But in the end, it is worth it.

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