Easy Ways to Ask Someone Out on a Date

You've spent the entire evening flirting with someone. You're on fire, loving life, feeling wanted and dying to see them again. All you have to do is ask.

Asking someone out on a date should be easy, right? Yes, but it is rarely that simple. Especially if you are nervous, a bit shy or suffer from a slight case of social anxiety.

The first thing to remember is to relax. Try not to view your request as a date. Better still - take the pressure off by not even using the "D" word. The whole thing takes on a life of its own when that word appears.

While asking for a date directly has a great rate of success, sometimes an indirect route can save you some anxiety when approaching a potential love interest:

Create an Opportunity
Once you know more about what your date likes to do, you can offer an invitation. If they dig art, ask them to the latest big museum exhibition. Into sports? See if they would like to check out a CFL game the next time the Argonuts are in town.

Drop a Hint
Ask about a subject and drop a subtle invite. Say something like:

* You: What do you like to do on the weekends?
* Them: Hiking
* You: We should go hiking together sometime.

Then move on in the conversation. Ask about her favorite hiking spot. Listen carefully to her response and gauge her enthusiasm. If she stays upbeat and positive, ask her if she would like to go hiking with you next weekend.

Keep It Casual
If you are uncomfortable asking "Would you like to go to dinner Friday night?" try:

"I am going for a ride along the boardwalk on Sunday. Would you like to go?"

Posing the question as if you're already going and they can join you, if interested, will take the pressure off both of you.

Be Specific
"I'd like to take you for coffee this Thursday" is more powerful than asking if they would like to "go out sometime."

The key is to plan ahead and be specific when asking someone out on a date. Your potential date will feel much more comfortable saying yes if they know what you want to do.

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Single: Tips for Looking for Love Again . . . Father's Day Special: $200 Off

Each of us has our own path to travel when it comes to success in dating. You may have some circumstances that make your dating life a bit challenging. Perhaps you were recently divorced and hesitant to jump into the deep end, much less create an online profile. Or maybe scheduling dates has had some road blocks as you adjust to juggling babysitters, gymnastic practice times and little league weekend games as a single parent.

Getting back into the dating game as a single parent, can be a bit daunting. That's why we suggest that single parents make a list of what you want from a potential mate:

* In one column, list what qualities you consider "absolutely necessary" in the people you want to date. This could be "an enthusiasm and love for children."

* In the second column, consider the qualities that are "somewhat necessary." Such as "well-educated" or income levels.

* In the last column, list the qualities that are "not absolutely necessary" but may be nice.  Such as "being a fan of your favorite hockey team."

Lunch dates can be the perfect way to test the waters. The first few dates are about exploring and getting to know the other person. Seeing if the two of you click on the chemistry level.  Luncheon dates fit easily into your work schedule while the kids are in school or at day care and won't impact your home life much at the beginning.

When you are ready, and depending upon their age, it is recommended that you talk with your kids about your desire to date. Think of your honesty as a seed that will grow into their future acceptance -- even before you start dating.

Kids are an important part of your life, but don't forget to make your happiness a priority too. Give yourself the opportunity to get to know someone before you start sizing up  their parental potential.

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Happy Father's Day . . . and happy dating!

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