Men are more interested in a relationship than women?

In our Dating Trends survey we asked singles: “When you are on a first date, what thought is going through your head?”  We received an unexpected result: not only did men and women have different top answers, but the first choice given by 47% of men, “Could we have a relationship together?” was one that in the past would have seemed more typical of women.  Instead, women’s top answer, given by 50% of those polled, was the less stressful “Do I want to see him again?”  Our Dating Trends surveys are beginning to show that men and women are becoming more alike in their dating habits and in some areas, they’re beginning to trade places. 

 Another area where men and women are becoming more alike, especially over the last seven years, is in how fast they decide on a first date whether or not they want to see someone again. In 2004, there was a huge disparity, where 79% of men took fifteen minutes or less--and 64% of women took an hour or more! In 2011, 60% of men and 55% of women take twenty minutes or less. Unfortunately these results are not surprising.  We are so used to demanding and getting instant information that we are beginning to become impatient and closed off, sometimes to our own detriment.  

So what should we do?  Maybe we all should slow down a bit when meeting someone for the first time.  Give the relationship time to develop.

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Dating Karma

It’s true – what you put out is what you get back! Whether you believe in the whole principle of karma or not, the idea behind it makes sense. If you are constantly thinking you’re too fat, too skinny, too old, too poor, too stupid, or too anything to attract a love match, chances are you probably won’t.

If you believe there are only jerks, gold diggers or messed up people out there, these are the people you will meet. If you think dating is a complete waste of time, then it will be! Negative thoughts produce negative results. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

If this sounds like you, then make a promise to yourself to stop it. RIGHT NOW! When you catch yourself in a negative thought, give yourself a little pep talk . Say “stop” and turne the thought around to something more positive. Give yourself a compliment about on of your strengths. You get the idea!

Happy Dating

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Dating Tips from the Dating Specialists!

1. Get interested in them and they will get interested in you. What is it that people like to talk about the most? Themselves, of course. Ask questions about where they like to go, what they like to do, who interests them and why they do what they do. You'll be talking all night.
2. Keep the conversation light and fun! Stay away from talking about your ex. If your date should ask, say something positive, keep it short and sweet.
3. Keep in mind that anything you say negatively about someone else reflects badly on you.
4. It’s all about attitude! Go on each date with a positive attitude and an open mind. He or she may not be the one, but they may introduce you to the one.
5. First date conversations killers: past relationships, dieting/body image, marriage or politics.
6. Turn your iPhone or Blackberry OFF! Give your date your full attention... it’s the polite thing to do.

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Would You Date You?

Think about it. Would you? This is a very important point. Unless you become the type of person you're looking for, you wont attract the type of person you seek. Have you ever known men or women who aren't necessarily the most handsome or pretty individuals but they never lack dates? What makes them so attractive? You guessed it: self confidence, and it's contagious. It also screams sex appeal. These people are glowing with a bright, friendly, fun attitude, and they have a genuine interest in others. They're happy with who they are and appreciate what they have to offer. This positive energy attracts an abundance of people who want to meet them. Self confidence produces amazing results.

Here's why:

It's sexy!
It allows you to relax and have fun.
It means you take rejection lightly and not personally.
It makes it clear that you are not desperate.
It means you're content with yourself, your looks and your life - which only makes you more attractive.

In order to gain self-confidence, you must first learn how to love yourself. It's important that you recognize and appreciate what's great about you- and accept what's not so great. If you don't love and accept who you are, how do you expect someone else to?

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