Tuesday, 2 February 2016

Wait! 3 Reasons to Hold Off on Getting Engaged on Valentine's Day

It's easy with red paper heart decorations popping up in grocery stores and window displays at the mall to start thinking about popping the question. But before you invest in a ring or practice taking a knee, there are a few things to consider.

Why Are You Asking?

Is it because you can see yourself together for many years to come? Can you imagine investing in a house, two cars, a family and eventually a retirement home . . . together? Or are you feeling a bit of pressure from the lover's holiday? Family? Your significant other? If you are considering proposing for any other reason than the want to start a life with them, can it. It will save you heartache in the long run. Because it's the 14th is never a good reason.

Is It Love or Settling?

Surprisingly, many people fall into the trap of committing to someone because "they will do." Maybe they are tired of dating. Perhaps a person believes this is as good as it is going to get for them in the love department (usually a self-esteem issue). Either way, many people find themselves "settling" for what they believe is the best they can get. Times have changed. We are no longer fishing for a mate in our backyard ponds. With the Internet and openness to move, the dating pool is huge. If you aren't gaga over the guy or gal in your life, reel in the relationship and recast your line. You (and the other person) will be happier for it.

Go For Broke -- Just Not on Valentine's Day

I know. I know. It's a day of romance. Florist, card shops and chocolatiers love it. If you want to make an impression on your significant other, don't follow the recipe of doing the deed on a commercial holiday. Make it special for the two of you. Take the proposal up a notch but avoiding the cliche of doing it on February 14th. Create a special day that is just for the two of you.