Tuesday, 16 February 2016

Keep It Simple: Go Back to the Basics of Dating

Some people say technology has shifted our dating experiences. The introduction of apps and social media means that people don't have to be introduced face-to-face with a brief 90 word description at a cocktail mixer by a mutual friend.

Others say that 30s is the new 20s, where people are waiting a decade or two before looking for the one. More years means more knowledge about what we want in our lives . . . and that makes it harder to find the one. 

And there are a few that says the rules always seem to be in flux. Do I call her? Text her? What if she doesn't IM back? Do I wait before making a move?

Here's my thought on all the above: it doesn't have to be that complicated. 

Let's look at the simple definition of dating: getting to know someone better and figuring out if you want to see them again. That's all that has to happen on a date. 

The dating world hasn't changed. It still honors the basics that you learned in kindergarten: Be yourself. Laugh at the things your find funny. Tell someone you like them. Share your opinions. Wear your geeky t-shirt. Let people know the real you.

Don't fall into the "what ifs" or "should Is" spiral. If you want to see them again, tell them. If you want to talk to them, call them. If you want to meet them for coffee, ask them. 

It's really that simple.