Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Top 3 Dating Challenges For Singles

Give your dating life a makeover with a fresh start this season by tackling and tossing out your dating perceptions: making the time to date, high expectations and too narrow of a comfort zone.

Make the Time to Date:
Okay, your work comes first. But that doesn't mean you don’t have time for love or can’t handle a relationship or dating. Creating a balance between work, life, love and family is doable — no matter how busy you are.The fact is: we all make choices in life. We all do what we want. If you are putting in 60 hours a week in the professional department and logging zero in the love area, the right one will not find his way to your downtown office . . . unless your crush happens to be on the postal carrier.

The reason to make time for dating, all the hassles included, isn't because it’s fun or easy. It’s not because it’s a sure thing or that each one will be a night to remember. It’s because if you don’t, you will never find the partner you deserve. They won’t be served up to you on a platter or delivered to your office like take out.
Dating is work — but you have to put in the hours to reap the benefits.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
After working with tens of thousands of clients through the years, I have found one piece of advice that makes the biggest difference as to whether people are successful at dating or not: "Get out of your comfort zone."

This doesn't mean let go of your "deal breakers." Obviously everyone has preferences. But those characteristics or qualities you feel you "have to have" can be awfully limiting when it comes to matters of the heart.  What it leads to is dating the same type of person over and over and expecting different results. Open yourself up to connecting with people who have similar core values but different professions, backgrounds and interests. Let go of some of the "have to have" qualities and focus on what's important.

Toss Out Your Expectations
People put way to much pressure on themselves during the dating process. You meet someone and think that "This has to work out. It could be six months before I find someone else remotely interesting." Or they try to envision their date as the father of their children. A date is simply a chance to get to know another person. That's it. Simple, right? It's not a time to decide whether or not she meets every single bit of your criteria for everlasting love. It's a date!

What's holding you back when it comes to finding that special someone? Consider perhaps letting down your guard the next time you head out the door on a date. Anything is possible -- if you let it.