Why You're Not That Into Him (or Her)

There's a guy who is into you. SO into you. He's texting for a first date or possibly even contacting you for a second date. You think to yourself that it was a fun date or part of you thinks "what will it hurt?" to see him.

But you can't ignore the feeling that there is something missing. A feeling that there is something more out there. This little voice is saying that he or she isn't the person you have envisioned.

Does this sound familiar? You don't have to raise your hand. We know. You are not the first and it is a reoccurring theme among daters -- male and female.

What it comes down to is that dream girl or guy you have envisioned as being the perfect match for you (oh, and doesn't exist) is competing for your affection with the real life person standing before you. In order to see your match as being your potential dream partner, you have to let go of your dating expectations.

Letting Go of Dating Expectations
Your dream gal or guy was created without the usual difficulties that arise during real relationships such as prior dating baggage, work schedules, long distances, conflicting political views and financial woes.

The truth of it is, it is the bothersome elements and problematic issues of the mundane everyday that help a couple grow, bond and enhance their relationship. Loving someone even though they don't pick up their socks or have a habit of picking their teeth at the table is just one of the many hurdles to something deeper, richer and more fulfilling.

They key here is to know what your "deal breakers" are. What is important to you, such as having kids or being a hockey fan? What qualities are in your dream guy? If your top three or four top qualities are present, say yes to the date.

Give your date the benefit of the doubt and look beyond what they may lack or perhaps something you aren't a fan of to see the genuine person they are. Opening your mind will open your heart to possibilities.

Good luck!