If you are like many singles, you are probably filled with hope for what 2015 may hold. That the change of the calendar is all it takes to change your status. As much as I wish it for you, this isn't the case. It takes a bit of work and the 3 R's to make big changes in your 2015 love life.
REFLECT UPON 2014 DATING LIFE
The lull at the beginning of the new year is a great time to reflect upon 2014. Too often, daters move from relationship to relationship without being sufficiently introspective throughout the process. In a rush to update their status, they don't stop to identify patterns that are actually hurting their dating life.
TIP: Select one facet of your love life that must change and stick with it. One client, by the name of Sarah, reflected on 2014 and learned, "I realized I date men longer than I should—meaning, I go on five or six dates with a guy, recognize the connection isn't there, but I keep seeing him thinking maybe the sparks will develop. But they never do. I end up prolonging the inevitable break-up which makes it harder for both of us in the end."
RECONSIDER YOUR PREFERENCES
Some of us need to reconsider who
we go out with in 2015. We all have an image of our ideal partner but
too many daters rule out anyone who doesn't fit their rigid criteria.
Take it from those who've been there, sometimes The One shows up in a
slightly different package than we'd expected.
TIP: Make a list of the qualities you want in your future spouse. Dream big and have fun with it! Highlight the "must have" characteristics—those traits on which you will not bend. Consider any others to be negotiable.
REACH OUT BEYOND YOUR IMMEDIATE CIRCLE
If you want your love life to change in 2015, you have to make some changes. For those in the dating scene, this means reaching out in a new direction. Push yourself a bit—nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
TIP: Interview friends whose relationships you respect. How did they meet The One? Commit to stepping out of your comfort zone by trying one of the methods that worked for them.
Ring in the New Year by resolving to follow the "3 R's"—reflect on your patterns, reconsider your criteria, and reach out in a different direction. Shape up your dating style and see who comes your way in 2015!
TIP: Make a list of the qualities you want in your future spouse. Dream big and have fun with it! Highlight the "must have" characteristics—those traits on which you will not bend. Consider any others to be negotiable.
REACH OUT BEYOND YOUR IMMEDIATE CIRCLE
If you want your love life to change in 2015, you have to make some changes. For those in the dating scene, this means reaching out in a new direction. Push yourself a bit—nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
TIP: Interview friends whose relationships you respect. How did they meet The One? Commit to stepping out of your comfort zone by trying one of the methods that worked for them.
Ring in the New Year by resolving to follow the "3 R's"—reflect on your patterns, reconsider your criteria, and reach out in a different direction. Shape up your dating style and see who comes your way in 2015!
A professional with an MBA, this curvy lady (30s) enjoys the finer things of life, such as theatre, dancing, travel & wine tasting. Fond of the great outdoors, you can find her camping or hiking Maritime trails. Movies, music & dogs hold a special spot in her heart. She's searching for an educated, professional man in his 40s who loves to travel & hopes to have a family one day.