Wednesday, 13 August 2014

Get Your Flirt On: Show Genuine Interest in People

I am going to let you in on a little secret. One of the biggest dilemma's I face as a professional matchmaker is professional clients who feel like they don't know how to flirt. 

Singles, whether they are just wading into the dating pool or recently out of a long-term relationship, view flirting in such a narrow capacity that it almost hinders their inherent ability to do it. In fact, they do it everyday at work and don’t even recognize it as a form of flirting; they think they're just being friendly, which of course they are. After all, there is definitely an element of friendliness that’s assumed when people flirt.

Flirting is simply a lighthearted interaction between two people as if they are attracted to each other, though attraction is by no means a prerequisite for flirting. In most cases, people flirt to express romantic interest in someone or to reciprocate such interest. In many other cases, people do it for for fun, to make someone smile or to give themselves an ego boost perhaps. However, flirting can also be used as a great relationship building tool in more professional settings when used strategically.

So, now that you know the basic definition of flirting, I am going to reveal the key to the fine art: sucess lies in having an authentic charm about you. The easiest way to turn up your charm is to be genuinely interested in people. What fascinates you most about people, the way they think, or the things that make them tick? Ask them questions; some people love talking about themselves. Another way to turn up the charm is by simply remembering people’s names. When meeting people for the first time, be sure to repeat their name at least three times during the initial conversation to help you remember it.

Be authentic. Ask genuine questions that go beyond the weather, what they do for a living or who they know at the cocktail party. Seek to know where they got those fascinating earrings or what they like to grow in their garden. 

 The most important thing to remember about flirting for success is to keep it light, fun and positive while being empathetic to other people’s feelings. If you can do this, then you will flirt the way flirting was supposed to happen - naturally and effortlessly.

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