Dating Karma: Confidence is Key!

As in every aspect of our lives, what you put out there in the dating world is what you get back. Whether you buy into the principal or not, the idea behind karma makes sense. If you think you are too busy, too skinny, too overweight or too poor or too anything to attract a love match, chances are you probably won't.

If you believe there are only jerks, gold diggers, booty call seekers or crazies out there, these are probably the people you are most likely to attract. If you believe dating is a complete waste of time, it will be.

Negative thoughts have a way of manifesting themselves into our daily life. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

So, how can we shift our Negative Nelly thoughts about ourselves or dating? You guessed it -- confidence! This positive energy produces the most amazing results because:

it allows you to relax and have fun;
Means you take rejection lightly and not personally;
and conveys you are content with yourself, your looks and life.

Try these six booster to improve your self confidence and dating outlook:

1) Compare Yourself to No One
Recognize that you are a hot ticket with a unique set of qualities and attributes. If you believe you are special, you will attract a partner who appreciates all that only you can offer the world. Tell yourself, "I'm great just the way I am" or "I'm exciting" or "I'm a gem." Why? Because you are. This self-talk will imprint a positive self-image in your mind that will change how you see the world -- and how the world sees you in turn.

2) Wrap Yourself In Love
Surround yourself with people who treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. Weave the nay-sayers or critical people out of your life. We all need a support group who are there to lift us up and help us see the possibilities within ourselves.

3) Take Action
If you're not happy with a particular part of yourself, take action to build confidence. Perhaps it is a new gym membership or getting some advice on a new article of clothing that fits just perfectly. This could just be a tiny step, but a huge jump in your confidence.

4) Try Something New
Over time, our habits start creating ruts in our life. Step outside of those ruts and push your boundaries. Join Toastmasters, take a dance class or try improv. By pushing through your fears and stepping outside the box, you'll find yourself reaching further than you thought possible. And making a few friends along the way.

5) Say "Yes" to the Date
As you handle all the different situations you come across, you will develop a better understanding of you and want you want in a partner. It is easy to go into dating with this pre-defined image of "The One," but that may change as you forge ahead on your path to love. The more you date, the more you learn and the better at the process you will become.

In the end, everybody can use a little personal development in the self confidence area. Nobody's perfect and no one ever will be. The best way to approach this is finding a balance between being all that you can be and your willingness to accept you just the way you are.